High Infidelity: is cheating always, well, cheating?

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Apparently, British people think estate agents from London between the ages of 18 and 29 are more likely to lie than any other demographic. And I’ve got the science* to back it up.

So does that mean that, if you’re in a relationship and you’re an estate agent from London between the age of 18 and 29 then your partner is more likely to think you’re a liar? And probably that you’re cheating on them too. Because that’s what liars do, right?

In the progressive age in which we live, where in some places you can be a woman and vote, be gay and not be jailed, and commit a crime and be rehabilitated, it also makes sense that we have become more open and fluid in respect to our love lives. Is this why infidelity has risen amongst married couples under the age of 30? Surely, our modern day perspective on love should mean more honesty, not less, even if that honesty means you become part of an open relationship.

Research suggests it is hard for humans to be in love with more than one person, but that attraction and affection towards many people occurs regularly. With this in mind, if you want to have your cake and eat it too, then just be honest. If your lover doesn’t want to be part of that world, then one of you needs to make a choice.

I once told a guy I was involved with that I wanted to see other people too. He told me he was fine with that, but he didn’t want to date anyone but me for the time being. I really appreciated his frankness. As it turns out, I didn’t feel comfortable having multiple partners, so much so that I didn’t even kiss anyone else.

Maybe I’m naïve, but I hope that kind of plain-speaking, respectful style of romance becomes the norm in the future, even if we end up not acting on our impulses as a result.

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